I don’t know about other authors’ experience, but my email exchanges with her, discussions on Goodreads, and the review she did for my book was excellent.
So I had to ask myself . . . Why was Kat Kennedy nice to me, but an alleged villain and bully to others.
Was Kat attempting to suck up to me due to my celebrity status? Lol.
- Well . . . I am no celebrity, especially when compared to her. Her online platform makes my online platform look like a limp penis. Thousands upon thousands of people are fans of her reviews and guest post! Whereas my mother hasn’t even read my book or followed my blog.
This leads me to an even bigger question . . . Why the hell did she read my book in the first place?
- I’m a new, unheard of author that wrote an urban fantasy. The story is unique in some ways, but very similar to most paranormal romances in lots of ways.
So I asked myself:
What if she was bullying me and I simply was too stupid to see it!? Is that even possible?
I had to know!! So I went back to my emails and our Goodreads’ exchanges to really analyze whether I was bullied by Kat.
(Disclaimer: Kat did give me permission to post these exchanges.)
Evidence of Possible Bullying #1
Kat Kennedy said,
Goodreads message. Feb 17, 2012
My email address is (Kat’s Email address was hidden).
An eBook is fine. It's expensive to send print copies to me.
I honestly apologize. I do get a lot of review requests but I would have remembered one from you and helped to promote your book.
An eBook is fine. It's expensive to send print copies to me.
I honestly apologize. I do get a lot of review requests but I would have remembered one from you and helped to promote your book.
Analytical Results:
Wow!
What a mean, vile person! Clearly this is a reviewer that authors should stay away from! Here she is not only willing to review my book, but is making sure that I don’t spend too much money sending it to her.
That’s awesome! Especially since some bloggers are adamant that they won’t review eBooks and demand print copies.
Evidence of Possible Bullying #2
Email on Feb 22, 2012
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Thank you so much, Kenya!
I'll be starting your book soon. I take being sent ARCs very seriously. These aren't protected files so I wanted to ask your permission to forward to my coblogger Stephanie. Generally, if we both like a book then we review it and do an author interview to publicize it. If one of us doesn't like it then we do a review war. If you're not comfortable with that - then I'm happy to be the only one who reads and reviews it.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! Hope all is well.
Kat
Analysis Results:
OH MY GOD! Did you see how she is trying to intimidate me? (And I say that with mock sarcasm just in case you didn’t get that . . . internet sarcasm is so hard to execute).
Let me tell you something that has happened to me and others. I’ve signed, sent my book to bloggers, and seen the signed book sold on eBay later. Another created a torrent out of it.
Giving a blogger an ARC can be a scary situation, if you give it to an unethical blogger. Clearly, Kat and her blog the cuddlebuggery are not unethical
Evidence of Possible Bullying #3
Kat Kennedy's Reviews > Fire Baptized
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Kat Kennedy's review of Fire Baptized
Mar 21, 12
bookshelves: death-by-paranormal-romance, romance-romance-romance
Read on March 19, 2012
This is not a book I’m happy about reviewing, because I really wanted to like it and its rating doesn’t truly reflect its quality.
You know how you love something like ice cream (note: I don’t like ice cream) and so you eat lots and lots of it. Then one day you pick up your favourite ice cream and it looks extra sumptuous. Even though there is nothing wrong with that ice cream, and even though it’s just like every other ice cream you’ve bought, you just suddenly can’t stomach it.
That was my reading experience with Fire Baptized. Don’t mistake the three star review. This is a well-written book with a very interesting, likable cast of characters. Fans of Paranormal Romance will probably eat this right up and love it. In fact, many, many do.
I got this book very, very excitedly because Wright was not only an author who composes herself amongst the reviewing and reading community with excellent manners, but the very synopsis was intriguing. I WAS INTRIGUED, I SAY! Bloody intrigued. Fascinated. Practically slobbering to get my greedy little paws on it and take it for a roll in the metaphorical reading hay.
But I’ve gorged myself, you see. After taking so many others to my not-so-metaphorical-bed (that’s where I read! Get your mind out of the gutter), I just found that I couldn’t do it again. For now, I’ve had my fill of paranormal romance for now and, unfortunately, I just didn’t realize that until I started this one.
Despite being reasonably well-written with fresh, different characters, there was enough similar to the formula to make an engorged paranormal fantasy book worm grab her tummy and reach for the pepto bismal. From the intensely alpha males to the mystery that can only be investigated by the heroine.
On a personal level, I’ve just read too many similar things too often before. BUT on a purely objective level, I really can’t fault Fire Baptized or Wright. It’s not her fault I’m the floozy of the PNR reading world, that the glamour of the illicit paranormal smoochies has ebbed.
It’s not you, Fire Baptized, it’s me.
It’s not you, Fire Baptized, it’s me.
Can we still be friends?
Oh, by the way. Did anyone else know that the angry, flaming woman on the cover is wearing a bikini or has years of heavy drinking and rampant book-promiscuity (reading at night!) destroyed my vision? You know, it’s nice to know that in the midst of burning, heinous, fury-fire of epic proportions, she still thought to wear a nice bikini. And she has an excellent brazillian. At least I think it is, but there’s only so much burning crotch you can look at to determine these things before people start thinking you’re crazy.
Oooooooohhhhhhhh! You know, I bet she’d be MARVELOUS at a barbecue!
Yeah, okay, I just crossed the line.
Yeah, okay, I just crossed the line.
Analysis Results:
Gee . . . I may need to flag this review for bullying . . . NOT! Lol! I think that was an outstanding review. I mean truly better than my own reviews to books. I would have been harsh.
You can tell that although Kat didn’t enjoy the book as much as she thought she would, she took a great amount of care and respect with reviewing it.
My only problem with this review was Kat’s lack of respect for ice cream. WTF? How do you not like ice cream?
But let’s rewind all of this and create an
alternate world where Kat did give me a bad
review!
alternate world where Kat did give me a bad
review!
Let’s pretend like she filled the review with gifs of people taking a crap and then said that those gifs were better than my book. Let’s say she also called me a moron with the brain size of a peanut and recommend that I never write again.
None of that would matter.
It would all just be her opinion.
So why didn’t she supposedly attack or bully me?
This is a guess . . . and only a guess, but maybe she isn’t a bully OR maybe it was because I didn’t attack and bully her to the point where she believed she had to defend herself.
I’m just saying. . .
So DEAR Authors that believe they are bullied on Goodreads,
Watch this video by Lauren DeStefano. She has the best advice for us all (well after my Bad Reviews and Orgasm plan).
Lauren DeStefano discusses the perils of the Goodreads's site
Great post, Kenya! I am a reader who does just that. I only started following this community about 6 months ago and for the most part LOVE it. I don't think that I could do what authors and bloggers do and put yourself out there for the whole world to see (and judge-cause people do). I commend all of you for being brave. This is the first I am hearing of this situation, but I have heard of others before. They seem like a firestorm for some. Reading this, it sounds like she is giving her honest opinion in a very nice and professional way. I, personally, take rejection or not the best news better from a person who says it nicely. ;) Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteLol! Hi-larious! The crazy is still going, I hope you're steering clear. ;)
ReplyDeleteOn a side note, glad to have stumbled across you again. I lost you after your other website went dark.
Hey girl! My website is back up www.kenyawright.com ! Glad to see you again!
ReplyDeleteLove Destefano - she's hilarious!
ReplyDeleteOkay, well, I have never had a problem with Kat - I've always found her to be funny. But I have been attacked on GR, where someone misinterpreted what I said and everyone jumped on that misinterpretation and the more I tried to explain myself, the more my words were twisted. It's... inFURiating when that happens to you. I'm to the point now where when I see it happening, I just walk away from them and let them do what they want. Of course, they continue to attack me, but I no longer see it, so everyone is happy that way... :-)
Destefano is really funny!!
DeleteWell there are problems on Goodreads on both parts, I do agree. There are lots of authors and reviewers that are just mean spirited. I ignore them and try to surround myself with cool people like you because its really not worth it to go back and forth online with negative people.